How come we are who we are?
Why is our nuclear family our first space of social learning?
Our Father, mother, and siblings.
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My understanding of breaking the glass ceiling
as a young girl was limited by my home
I could remember that as a child,
My father told me,
“for a woman to find a husband, then she must not drive a car.”
He continues, “you know, when a young lady successful as a single lady, no one wants to marry her.”
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I bought into this belief and I lived it.
I believed that I should not buy a car as a single woman.
And so, I said to myself, “I will hop buses to get to work.
I will get myself a car when I am married.”
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Who sold my father this belief? This, I cannot answer.
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As a young lady, this kind of beliefs makes us think less of ourselves.
It also undermines our sense of pursuit.
Whereas, no one sold men and boys this ‘you cannot mentality.’
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Men own it all.
They have it all.
And they live their lives to the fullest.
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And today, I find myself at the cent er of advocacy,
A centerpiece where I can no longer believe in this construct
And ensuring that women and men are treated equally by the society,
And above all, ensuring that humanity is preserved.
I am owning my destiny
I can have and ride a car as a single woman.
I do not need to have a man before I ride one.
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Breaking the glass-ceiling for girls and women begins
when the society allows us to breathe freely.
When our parents train us like they train the boys.
We break it. We smash it.